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so this past week on Halloween a friend of mine passed away. I had known him since i was 4, he was one of my longest best friends. My friend had no known health problems. he was a 3 sport athlete in high school and was in great shape. Kind to everyone and not to mention my first friend that was in to cars as much as me.

My friends father woke up Halloween morning and and started to get ready for the day. Around 10 am er so he heard sams alarm go off. He heard sam hit the sleep button for an extra 10 mins. 10 mins goes by and the father hears the alarm go off. This time the alarm clock kept going and going and going. Thinkn he was just really passed out, he went to go wake up his lazy ass. He never woke up. CPR was conducted and still no results. A complete mystery. sam never touched drugs, nor alcohol. 2 days later sams dads brother passed away in his sleep. sam was 23. Things like this makes me so angry at God. even though i dont even believe in god, at the same time makes me appreciate everything so much more.

im not sure if this could have come at any more of a worse time for me. the past couple of years has been so hard on me for a ton of reasons. Its hard to keep positive. I am posting this to humble people whom need to be humbled, and so i can get it off my chest

The hardest part of this death i think is that now our entire core group of friend since kindergarten have to see each other tomorrow at the funeral. some of us havnt seen each other since before college, which is 6 years.

R.I.P SAM 5.0

Sorry Andy.

Wow. I'm really sorry to hear this. I can imagine how that is f'ing with your head, that a perfectly healthy person is just all of a sudden dead.

I hear you 100% on being angry with God. Someone who is stupid and narrow-minded would say that God didn't kill Sam, but only let him die. Sorry, I don't buy it. If God is both benevolent and omnipotent, he wouldn't let something like this happen, not to Sam, nor to you. Either he's not benevolent or he's not omnipotent. Regardless, he's fallible, which brings the whole thing crashing down anyway.

I'm not real good at offering consolation, maybe because the consolation I've been offered in my life rarely helps. But I'll do my best.

Sam at least died in the company of one of his best friends, and hopefully in little or no pain. It sucks that he had to go as early as he did, but he went in about the best way possible. And I'm sure he's the kind of guy who would want you to keep going on with your life and not dwell on this forever. That would make him the happiest.

My sincerest condolences to you and yours. I know you don't know me all that well, but PM me if you need to talk. I know a little more about this whole death thing than I'd like to.

My condolences go out to you aswell. I dont know you, but I know exactly how you feel. 2years ago my best friend passed away. We have been friends since we were 5. Its crazy to think that at the time of his death we had been friends for 20years already.
It takes alot of time to come to terms with it, but happily now I dont really remember the pain as much as I remember the best things about him. Hang in there.

Maybe an aneurism? My friend's mother died of that when she was 11. A very healthy person as well. Did he get a head injury? My ex's sister dated a guy who rode into the side of a car and appeared fine until a year later when he just didn't wake up. Words of encouragement always seem so trite, so I'll just wish you the best.

It's never easy. My wife & I lost our daughter when I got rear-ended & spun around. The car seat buckle lock mechanism released (provided by the local hospital mind you) and she flew out of the car. She pretty much lost all brain function on impact and the hospital 4 miles away did all they could but the damage was too great. This was in '97 and it's literally taken me until this year to have the want to be a father again... And yes, the car seat had a recall prior to us receiving it w/o our knowledge. Needless to say the car seat company (which will remain nameless) and the local hospital were sued for the inability for the car seat to do it's job and it still being handed out while it was under national recall.

Talk about being mad at the unseen forces from above. I'm not sure how my wife and I managed to stay together after that because I was in such pain and angry 24/7.

Loosing a very close friend is no easier. Especially when they are a life long friend. It's very hard to keep your head up, but I can tell you that this is when you need friends & family the most. I wish you the best Andrew...

hey guys i would just like to say thank you for being supportive i really do appreciate it. when someone passes away its crazy what parts of the brain are activated. parts that produce thoughts and feelings that you never thought could have come from your personality.

well the autopsy came back. and the it came back inconclusive. doctors are baffled there is no explanation. they did a kat scan and found nothing. they just said his heart stopped and that he was in no pain.

the funeral was today, to my surprise it was a open casket. i have never been to one. Never do i want to go to one again. Other than that it was great. i was able to see people whom i hadnt seen in 10 years. not exactly the way you want to see them but, none the less good.

Jason your a strong stud. there is nothing in this world harder than i can ever imagine than losing my child. I am very happy for you and your wife. having your marriage survive something so hard is amazing and i wish you guys the best.

i have been angry with "god" for quite sometime, the car accidents that i was in, that have taken a real tole on things, the benign tumor that was found 3 years go on my brain, and the break up of my girlfriend.
In the past 6 months i have really turned things around thinkn positive, surrounding myself with positive people. I am not a person who thinks that "I will never be OK". i know thats not true it takes time and good friends. and i appreciate you guys being understanding