Finally my prob is sorted and the cause is so incredibly simple.
Firstly I will clarify a little history.
Trans rebuilt at 76k
Fluid left to run UNCHANGED for 80k
In the trans sump pan there is a ring magnet to collect steel particulate.
Trannies make a LOT of metal after a rebuild.
After 80k the magnet had collected so much metallic crud it couldnt hold any more. This allowed the fine metal in the fluid to continue to circulate.
NOW THEN, in the 4EAT there are a number of magnets namely
DUTY SOLENOIDS!!!!
These collect the aforementioned metal from the fluid and they start sticking causing all manner of control issues.
My prob (DUTY SOLENOID C STICKING) and the resulting loss of AWD was simply metal sludge inside the solenoid.
To fix this I removed the solenoid and submerged it in CRC and using 12V dc I cycled the solenoid a few dozen times.
WELL the gey sludge did spew forth so i pumped CRC through it while cycling it. A LOT of muck came out.
I now have it actuating at 5 VDC and disengaging at 1VDC
Before it wouldnt work even at 12VDC!!
I left the power/manual switch linked into the duty c circuit so I have CONSTANT 4WD ON DEMAND AS WELL AS AWD AS NORMAL.
From this thread I can see this is a reasonably common problem.
It's the simple thimgs that often cause the biggest problems.
