I'm buzzed and my gf pissed me off...

[legacy92ej22t]

Mike, I know things seem bleak and nothing I say will probably have any impact but I know how you feel. All I can say is spend some time with your friends and do whatever it is you really like to do. I know money is tight but do something for yourself and don't worry about the money. Take a road trip with some buddies, go to a concert of your favorite band, anything that will get your mind off of your troubles and make you happy, even if only temporary. Try to keep busy, that's what I have been doing, I push myself and do as much as possible so that I don't have time to sit and dwell on it. When I am sitting alone in my new rental, thinking about my family and ex in my house that I own, I start the downward spiral into the abyss...... Get out, don't sit there alone in your house dwelling on shit is not good.

In terms of not having anything to live for, there is always something to live for and things do get better. Enjoy being a bachelor for awhile. Nobody to bitch and complain at you, nobody to nag you or use your favorite coffee mug. Things are looking up already!

Anyways, I know I don't really know you but if you ever need to talk or just unload, feel free to PM me. Sometimes talking to someone that you don't know real well can be very good because they don't know any history about you and don't have pre-conceived ideas....

[Lunatech]

I think far too many people have been i similar situations. I for one have been there. I left my unfaithful spouse, lost my job, blew up the engine in my car, and became homeless in a matter of about 12 hours! It took me a good long while to recover from that. So many days of not knowing weather I would live or die and not caring which. But I made it through all that, just had to think of something worth living for, some times minute by minute I had to remind myself to think of whatever it was I picked for that day. There is always something!
I am not real good at putting thoughts down in words, but I hop it does some good for you to know you are not the only one who has been in the crapper. I know you know that already, but it really helped me to hear it from some of the most random people. Just talking to some one, especially a stranger can be very therapeutic. You don't know me, but you can PM me if you want to and I will be there for you.

[magicmike]

Thanks guys. Last night was pretty rough and I drank a little. I took the locks to e changed today since it was cheaper than having them come to my house to do it. She gave me the key back but I would not put it past her that she had a copy made before hand. We texted back and forth last night mainly with my pathetic ramblings asking how and why she would have done this to me. I guess its pretty pointless. I still feel like shit and I still don't have the answers.

What is funny to me is that I was the biggest player asshole you have ever met. I used to have a girlfriend in RI, a girlfriend in MI and I would cheat on the GF in RI with other girls when I was here and when I was in MI I would cheat on the MI girlfriend too. I was the biggest slut but boy were my friends proud. They loved hearing about my stories and when I would forward them dirty pictures I'd get from the girls on the side.

So, this is Karma I guess. The first time in my life that I respect a woman that I’m dating and I get completely taken for a ride. I guess it hurts so much because I really thought I would marry her and have kids with her. I guess it could be worse I could have done those things and she would have done the same shit to me then.

Steve, I’ll definitely take you up on some beers. PM me with your zip. We are probably about an hour apart. I also wouldn’t mind heading up your way. A nice quiet drive is always good in times like these.

[Legacy777]

Mike,

My recommendation is to break off all communication with her. It really is for the best, and will help in the long run. Love tends to blinding at times, and stepping away from the individual can help you see more clearly on things.

I can speak from experience on this one. Unfortunately on more than one occasion.

[entirelyturbo]

I agree.

Stand up for yourself and tell her, in one way or another, to fuck off. She cheated. She deserves it.

Then delete her number out of your phone, and take her off your Myspace or Facebook or whatever.

Staying in contact with her simply prolongs the pain and, frankly, makes you appear desperate and weak.

Although it was difficult at first, I haven't spoken to my ex in nearly 2 years and I can say with fervent sincerity that I don't give a rat's ass. The only thing I'm carrying with me from that relationship is a lesson.

Finally, don't fear being alone. Society has managed to pull off one of the biggest farces of all time by convincing everyone that being alone is weird or creepy or unhealthy.

I, on the other hand, believe that one should develop as an individual first. Only then can one develop a healthy relationship with someone else.

Best of luck Mike.

[magicmike]

Thanks guys. today was less difficult than yesterday. I just got used to having someone come home to me and I liked it. Even if that bitch complained to me when she got home. I still liked having someone come home to me. and i liked having someone in my bed with me. Even if we had fought and werent speaking. Its nuts I know but thats the only way I can explain it. Having her not there feels worse than having her there and being mad at her.

I know that what all of what you guys are saying is right. I know it because I have said it myself to buddies of mine when it has happened to them but its crazy how it feels different when it happens to you.

What is really funny to me is that all of you are basicallly strangers to me. I've never met a single soul from any message board including this one, but what makes this place different is that its small enough to have the few guys who have kept around to chime in and we all know and respect those guys.

so thank you for your support and kind words in my tough time. It is bizzar that I get more comfort from total strangers with thge same sick subaru bug as me than my own friends who i have known my whole life.

good night.