Need board members opinions on internet relationships - LONG

[LegacyPunk]

Well, to through myself in here, my first girlfriend I met through the internet, chat room type thing, Everything was going well talking a lot on IM's and we decided we wanted to meet each other over a summer. (this was back when i was like, 15 or so). Just some advice for boost junkie, if you haven't met her in person yet, it takes a second to switch from the realization that she isn't just a screen name anymore, But you talk so much on the net and feel like you know this person really well, it was one of the wierdest craziest things ive ever felt, it's like you see this person in the flesh for the very first time, and you already know so much about them. Long story short it was good while it lasted, we met twice over that summer but then the distance got to me (no real means of seeing each other frequently, she lived in Montana, visits would eventually be like only on holidays ) and im the kind of guy that likes doing stuff on weekends and such, so i ended up breaking it off, very hard to do cause I cared a lot for the person.

Anyway, I say go for it, especially if you have a chance of seing her more often.
Also i strongly agree with Yukonart that it is a good idea to be great friends with the person your in a relationship with.
Just my 2 cents Now if only I could find somone....

[boostjunkie]

Thanks again for the numerous responses since my last post. As always, helpful as ever!! You make a good point when stating there needs to be a fair amount of commonality between the two people involved. I'm still trying to figure that one out. Basically, I've done a lot of soul searching over the past month or so (culminating with this string of posts) and have realized that I major career change is in order. I think that finding myself and determining who I am first is in order. I think I'm closer to figuring that out at this point.

I'm still confident that my "relationship" with said woman will remain at the forefront of my interests. Basically, I figure if she can see me through the drastic changes that are going on with my life, she'll be able to better understand who I am as a person . . . by understanding what it took to get there.

I think this reply probably sounds a little vague and convoluted right now, but honestly, I have all of these ideas floating around in my head that it's kinda hard to put into words right now. But I'll tell you this much. For the first time in my life I've never been so confused with overwhelming focus. For what that means

[Yukonart]

lol . . . "confused with overwhelming focus" is a very good way to illustrate all this. I gather from that you're more or less making a huge move into the unknown, but with a very powerful sense of direction and purpose. Been there. . . I totally know the feeling.

I've been presented with the marvelous opportunity (more like motivation) to do all the things I've always wanted to try. A certain someone has shown me that life can be anything but dull. . . and the one thing that keeps life from being dull is tapping one's sense of adventure and enthusiasm. Already I'm doing things I've never tried before, and loving it! My confusion comes from what to do next.

But the constant motivation (internal and external) is what's driving me to think of new ways of finding myself. The sweetest thing is, through doing all this, I'm also continually discovering another amazing person whom I enjoy spending time with and getting to know more than anything.

[czo79]

AWWWWHHHH! How cute...our very own legacycentral lovebirds...
I think I'm gonna be ill...

Micum
I'm reconciling myself to a life of shallow relationships, since I realized women are PCE...

[evolutionmovement]

Good for you, Micum. The Hollywood BS romantic dream is just that - human beings were not meant to have such strong unrelated relationships (even then they usually suck), any lucky exceptions are entirely accidental. Most human beings are too fundamentally selfish and self-unaware to tuly love anyone else and the chances of finding one that doesn't fit the previous sentence that has a mutual attraction to you and isn't already taken by some douchebag are less than winning the lottery.

There's only one thing a woman can give that a car can't. I never used to believe that, but the longer I live the more I see it to be true. Accept it and be happy. Wanting anything more is just a set-up for a miserable depressing life. It's why I'm a writer - I can make up interesting single women that don't exist to write about.

I had a so-called soul mate. Didn't work out and neither of us know why. But, I'm not bitter or anything.

Steve

[Legacy777]

One thing i do agree with you guys about....if you do happen to meet that "special" someone or even someone that isn't a money grubbing you know what......it is....and will be completely random......