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You guys... sheeesh... In the words of the true playa fo real; Too Short [short dogg in da house!]:

tooshort wrote:She ain't trippin on me, she wanna fuck my car.

LOL!

I just call it how I see it. I give respect to those that earn it. And after being jaded so many times with girls that I "thought" were right for me, I have no other way to keep myself from becoming depressed all the time.

For the record, I used to be engaged to a girl I was going out with for almost 10 years! She meant everything to me, and I thought she was the best woman in the world!! Then she goes and breaks off our relationship to shack up with my best friend (who had just graduated from Dental School a couple months previous) a couple DAYS later.

Now if that doesn't make me cautious about relationships, I dunno what does?

So, I begin to test the waters by sticking my neck out with catering to the girls' needs, but if those needs end up being a little far-fetched in my mind (and dating someone because of a car is VERY FAR-FETCHED, IMO), then they're not worth it.

BTW, don't hate the player . . . hate the game.

j/k!

Basically what you said Jason, I didn't care that she didn't like my car. I care that she cared more about the car than about the guy.

It was never my intention to date a materialistic girl (although looking at my history of women, it may be assumed that I did look for the "trophy" girl).

Wham - bam - thank you mam was more of the opinion I got from that girl. I could have put on the ritz, dressed up, drove dad's XTerra, pulled out all the stops. But I didn't.

I stopped doing that kind of thing in High School. Getting laid stopped being my #1 priority (but being a man, it's still up there, lol).

So now, I just present myself as I am, and the girls can take it or leave it. And to tell the truth, I've met some great friends when I stopped trying to have sex with every girl I saw. Plus, I met Catie and she's really cool.

I just wanted to clarify that I'm not some walkin hormone. LOL! Lately, I've been gettin depressed about whether I'd actually find someone that I could spend the rest of my life with. I'm one of those hopeless romantics when it comes down to it, but use the "companionship" gained from random interactions with women as a vice to keep me from goin crazy.

It's all I can do, honestly.

Phil, good luck with this other girl!!

boostjunkie wrote:I just wanted to clarify that I'm not some walkin hormone.

That's what I am...

Right now, I am really just looking to get laid. And I'm not doing a very good job of it either. I am probably the worst with women, more than anybody on this board.

I tried being very nice and opening up to a girl, no go. She told me I was "tender" and didn't want to hurt me. Bah! If it wasn't at the workplace, I woulda popped her on the ass good and shown her just how "tender" I was!

So I tried talking a little more raunchy with a girl who's also a Subaru person (very nice 01 2.5RS) coz the both of us could really use some sex . Dunno if I just didn't have the finesse, or the fact that I'm a couple years younger, but she gave the same response. It would just have been a "friends with benefits" type of thing, but she's actually a girl who tries to be as chaste as possible. And I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship over a night of fun. We still get along, so it was understood to be just a hormone rage

So I think I'm just gonna do some club-hopping for the next couple weeks and at least just get a little one-night stand in... I gotta do something though. That Playboy on my table is getting awfully old to look at LOL!!

Again, here I am with the lyrical finesse...

Guns 'n Roses wrote: Your daddy works in porno
Now that mommy's not around
She used to love her heroine
But now she's underground
So you stay out late at night
And you do your coke for free
Drivin' your friends crazy
With your life's insanity

Well, well, well you just can't tell
Well, well, well my Michelle

Sowin' all your wild oats
In another's luxuries
Yesterday was Tuesday
Maybe Thursday you can sleep
But school starts much too early
And this hotel wasn't free
So party till your connection calls
Honey I'll return the keys

Evryone needs love
You know that it's true
Someday you'll find someone
That'll fall in love with you
But oh the time it takes
When you're all alone
Someday you'll find someone
That you can call your own
But till then ya better...

Now you're clean
And so discreet
I won't say a word
But most of all this song is true
Case you haven't heard
So c'mon and stop your cryin'
'Cause we both now money burns
Honey don't stop tryin';
An' you'll get what you deserve

I got laid more when I stopped trying to get laid. Might want to think about that subyluvr2212. I tried to get laid in high school, and it worked a bit, but not giving a shit also worked pretty well in college.

subyluvr2212, don't worry, it'll happen. Honestly, BAC5.2 has the right idea:

BAC5.2 wrote:I got laid more when I stopped trying to get laid. Might want to think about that subyluvr2212. I tried to get laid in high school, and it worked a bit, but not giving a shit also worked pretty well in college.

Girls can sense when a guy's desperate. Most of the time, my meeting someone is purely random. I'll usually just be bs-ing with friends and then . . . BAM . . . it happens. I think it's because I come across more natural when I'm just chillin with friends. I've never been one to go and talk to women . . . I'm a bumbling idiot! When they come to me, at least I have this sense that they're interested, so I'll roll with the conversation a little easier.

Ever wonder why girls tend to go after you when you're in a relationship (THAT ALWAYS SEEMS TO HAPPEN!)? Well, the girls not only notice that you're with someone, and wonder what it is about you that attracts someone, but they also know that you're not pressed.

Self-confidence is the key (I could've sworn we had a long post about this a few months ago). I hate to say it, but my self-confidence started comin to me after I started workin out again. *shrug*

I'm opposite of Jason here. I usually approach the women I talk to (but then again, I don't go to bars or clubs that don't start with "strip"). If it clicks right away, I know it's worth going after. If it doesn't, then the friendship chance is always there.

I find the key is to be mellow. I don't stress over anything, and that's when I'm most successful.

Anyway, I'll probably see Catie tomorrow and start the ball rolling on hanging out more.

On another note, I just realized that my senior year english teacher fit the "dream girl" description as well. Not as well as Catie does, but weird that she does at all. She was pretty hot though. I would have hit on her more if she wasn't married.

I'm the opposite - I always find its the women in relationships that come after me.

Steve

Really?

I've always had friendships with the girls I date before hand, so I just assume since I am the one that initially asks out for a date, I am the person at "fault" supposedly.

I guess I don't really pick up chicks, in the past I have just dated who's convenient.

I don't date anyone I don't find more interesting than my car.

The quality of single women out there is lacking.

Steve

If you include moms then the quantity goes up.

Besides, you know they put out already

ciper wrote:If you include moms then the quantity goes up.

Besides, you know they put out already

Hahaha. Funniest thing I've heard since "Dogma"

"Why are you hanging around at an abortion clinic?"

"We figure it's a good place to meet chicks. Plus, they wouldn't be here if they didn't like to fu.."

On that note, I was at the mall today. There is an increasing amount of MILF's showing up.

The increasing amount of MILFs is a sign of increasing age. I find myself checking out the moms more often than their 18 yr old daughters now - they just look too damn young.

Some MILFs have money, too. I would love to find some attractive single older woman with cash looking for a good time with a guy who doesn't need viagra and doesn't need a month in between.

Steve

evolutionmovement wrote:I don't date anyone I don't find more interesting than my car.

The quality of single women out there is lacking.

Steve

See this is why I haven't dated much.....I don't find it entertaining to date someone I don't really give a shit about.....I know that sounds harsh.....

I do think intelligence is attractive, similar interests, as well as all the physical appearence stuff. This is probably why I'm dating the girl I am, and why things are good. She's smart, has similar interests we can share, but also has interests she can do on her own, or include/introduce me to, and is physically attractive.

Legacy777 wrote:

evolutionmovement wrote:I don't date anyone I don't find more interesting than my car.

The quality of single women out there is lacking.

Steve

See this is why I haven't dated much.....I don't find it entertaining to date someone I don't really give a shit about.....I know that sounds harsh.....

I do think intelligence is attractive, similar interests, as well as all the physical appearence stuff. This is probably why I'm dating the girl I am, and why things are good. She's smart, has similar interests we can share, but also has interests she can do on her own, or include/introduce me to, and is physically attractive.

I understand where you're comin from Legacy777. Like I said, for anything to really work out there has to be much more than just a physical attraction to someone. Whether that be through other interests or what, if there isn't something at LEAST a little deeper than "she's hot," it won't work out with me.

Kinda reminds me of something my friend told me a while back: "you know, you can take the hottest girl in the world, and there will ALWAYS be someone that won't give her the time of day if she asked."

Different strokes for different folks.

Legacy777 wrote:I do think intelligence is attractive

Yep. I can't stand stupid girls. Fun to look at, but that's about it.

I know this one girl. Kinda cute, but dumb as a brick. She just NEVER has anything intelligent to say, ever.

Girls who are stupid instantly turn me off no matter how attractive. For me a girl has to be attractive but without intelligence, a sense of humor, and interests forget it - she's no longer attractive. Oh, and she can't be too nice. Can't stand people who are too nice.

Steve

evolutionmovement wrote:Girls who are stupid instantly turn me off no matter how attractive. For me a girl has to be attractive but without intelligence, a sense of humor, and interests forget it - she's no longer attractive. Oh, and she can't be too nice. Can't stand people who are too nice.

Steve

Funny thing is, I don't even attempt to talk to someone who looks too "hot." It sucks but I have this stereotype that she'd be either: 1, very materialistic, or 2, very stupid. I know there are exceptions to the rule, but that's how it's been for me in past experience.

Of course, if she were to come to me and start talkin, then it'd be a different story (she seems to be makin an effort to get to know me). She might prove herself to be breaker-of-the-mold.

boostjunkie wrote: Funny thing is, I don't even attempt to talk to someone who looks too "hot." It sucks but I have this stereotype that she'd be either: 1, very materialistic, or 2, very stupid. I know there are exceptions to the rule, but that's how it's been for me in past experience.

Bingo.....I do the same thing....if they're too hot....I don't even bother....maybe it's also a self-confidence thing on my part....but in the past with friends and such.....I've found the too hot a girl stereo type is pretty accurate....plus I don't care to play the games.

I try to give everyone a chance. The hot ones are people too. If they seem to materialistic or whatever, at least you can take solice in the fact that she is a bitch, and you aren't.

I don't stereotype by too hot, although a combination of who they're with and how they dress, etc will factor into a prejudgement. In general, though, I tend to go for the hot girl-next-door over the supermodel. Its unfortunate that there seems to be either superficial women who think they're too hot or the ones that truly are beautiful on many levels who think they're not. I'm good with the flowers-for-no-reason (never to apologize, but of course I'm prefect so I have no need to apologize ) and compliments and such, but I get frustrated when they don't believe it. I find it insulting - as if I'd waste my time on someone beneath me or lie to get a girl in bed. I haven't been laid in four years because I stick to my standards, and no one can tell me that doesn't take dedication!

Steve

evolutionmovement wrote:I don't stereotype by too hot, although a combination of who they're with and how they dress, etc will factor into a prejudgement. In general, though, I tend to go for the hot girl-next-door over the supermodel. Its unfortunate that there seems to be either superficial women who think they're too hot or the ones that truly are beautiful on many levels who think they're not. I'm good with the flowers-for-no-reason (never to apologize, but of course I'm prefect so I have no need to apologize ) and compliments and such, but I get frustrated when they don't believe it. I find it insulting - as if I'd waste my time on someone beneath me or lie to get a girl in bed. I haven't been laid in four years because I stick to my standards, and no one can tell me that doesn't take dedication!

Steve

Good point, Steve. Honestly, I think that the true mark of a hot girl is whether she's hot without a make-up face. I'm definitely in agreement with ya about the "girl next door" type. These would also be the one's who break-the-mold in my previous post. If they're hot without makeup, then they're not really concerned with how they look too much (they have other priorities on their mind), or they wouldn't have gone out without makeup in the first place!